Sexuality And Relationships - What Are The Green - Red - And Black Flags In Your Sex Life?

Do you have a healthy sex life? How's your relationship? Hardly anyone seems to know. Overall, we spend more time picking out a new car than picking out a compatible mate. So what are you to do? How do you tell if your relationship is healthy, problematic, or downright dangerous?

There is one way to categorize different areas of your relationship, including your sex life. This is to assess each area using the green flag, red flag, black flag method.

A green flag indicates that certain areas of your relationship are working for you. For instance, using the example of your sex life, you have an ample sex life with your partner and enjoy the type of sexual activity that you desire, then that would be a green flag.

A red flag, on the other hand, indicates that certain areas of your relationship are problematic or need warning sign. Using the example of your sex life again, if you do not have adequate frequency of sexual activity for your liking, then this might be a red flag in your relationship. Red flags are areas that need to be worked on or changed in your relationship.

A black flag indicates that certain areas of your relationship are highly problematic and potentially dangerous. Using the example of your sex life once more, if your partner withholds sex as a way of getting back at you when they are angry, then this would be to me a black flag in your relationship. Black flags represent potential deal breakers in a relationship.

So what can you do to improve things in your sex life and in your relationship? A good sex life and a good relationship do go together, I think. Here are three tips on turning your red flags to green in your sex life:

1. Talk with your partner. Share your concerns, and tell them how you would like your intimate life together to be.

2. Re-ignite the romance. If you are lacking frequency in the sex department, plan sexy dates together. Flirt. Be sexy. Get yourself in the mood. You will be glad that you did.

3. If you can’t go it alone, get some assistance. Find a counselor or coach who is experienced in the sexuality area to help you both talk through your differences and work towards having a more satisfying sex life.

Remember, you get to decide what your needs are. I empower you to create the relationship that you desire, with a level of happiness and fulfillment that really works for you.